Monday

FIFTY.


I am writing this blog so that my Folklore life of the semester will be rounded out at a solid fifty. This semester I have learned a lot of things. I did not know what Folklore was before I started this class. Well, that's a lie. I knew about folk songs. Kinda I knew there was a genre of "Folk Music" that I like. But I did not know that Folklore could encompass almost everything. I love it. It ties so many actions together, and it's good for a good laugh or a good reflection. 

Folklore is Fun!


BREAD






Today, I made bread and Kendra ate it and it was good. It was the bread my Mama always makes for Christmas. Sometimes she calls it Holly Bread but sometimes she does not. It is our bread we make every Christmas and give to family friends... and it is GOOD.

It's also easy. Today was the first time I ever made bread all on my lonesome. And it turned out just GREAT.... and by great, I mean yummy.

Saturday

Rudolph

Today my ward had its closing social and one of the skits performed was Rudolph the Rednosed Reindeer. As they started to sing the song, people in the audience starting doing the echoes like "like a lightbulb", etc. Most of the people sang the same echoes, but in every echo at least one person sang something different. For example, everyone sang "like Columbus" at the end of the song, but I always grew up saying "like George Washington" or "like Frankenstein." I didn't hear anyone drop the Columbus line until I was 18.

Monday

Temple Square.



The other night, we went and saw the lights on Temple Square. It was an activity with my ward, and there were a million people there. Well, maybe not a million. But at least two thousand. And as we were snaking our way around the lights I heard countless people say they were there with their ward, and some had come even farther than Provo.

The Lights at Temple Square is a tradition. And a good, cute one.

Saturday

Of Trees and Christmas



My cute roommates (save Lexi) and I went and bought the cutest cutest Christmas tree last night. We set out planning to get one about four feet high, but then we found this one and we just couldn't help ourselves. When we found it, I saw someone else eyeing it so we stayed close to it and bought it. Then we but it in Becci's brother's tiny car and hung it out the window in the backseat. We didn't have anywhere in the back to seat, so the three of us piled in the front seat. It was reallyreallyreally comfortable (that was sarcastic).

Anyway, we brought the tree home and got to work. And this was our finished product! Our tree is way cute, and makes everyone feel even more at home. Our apartment is really homey anyways, but now it's so much like a little home I can't get enough of it! I don't want to leave the living room... i just want to hang out under all of the lights. This is my first Christmas tree since I've been in college and my first real one for years and years. I'm glad Americans have a Christmas tree tradition. It's just so warm and pretty!

Monday

Thanksgiving.

This was my first Thanksgiving spent away with my family. I went to my good friend Calvin's. He lives in a suburb of Boise, Idaho that I thought was three hours away... it was six.

Honestly, I did not feel like Thursday was Thanksgiving. It felt like any other day. I think the best part of Thanksgiving is relaxing with your family. That is what makes it a holiday. I LOVE my family and I wish I could have been with them this past week... especially since they got to play with my adorable niece Sophie.

But here TEN traditions I found in Meridian, Idaho that my family practices in Lee's Summit, Missouri.

1. Football. Football. Football. (I must say my brothers are more aggressive than Calvin's... this year my brother Nathan gave out a bloody nose, a pulled knee, and a concussion. Cal's family did nothing of the sort).
2. Turkey. Turkey. Turkey.
3. Mashed Potatoes. Mashed Potatoes. Mashed Potatoes.
4. Rolls. Rolls. Rolls.
5. Stuffing.
6. Green. Bean. Casserole.
7. Pie. Pie. Pie. 
8. Intermission between pie and dinner.
9. Split of men and women.
10. Having to say what you are thankful for, which is always semi-embarrassing.

Also, Calvin's family used fine china to eat with although their family is all boys. Sometimes my mama does that, but lately she uses paper plates because our family has gotten so large. And people eat on the fireplace, the table, extra chairs, and the bar. Calvin's family sat at the table. And everyone talked, but they were a little quiet. My family isn't necessarily a loud loud loud family but golly gee, we LOVE to laugh!

Oh, and my family goes to a movie every Thanksgiving between dinner and pie. Cal's never has. They stay at home. AND my mama and my aunt make about ten different types of pies, not ten pies of the same kind.

But I still think what makes Thanksgiving Thanksgiving is the fam. Otherwise it just feels like another day, just with a lot of food.

White as SNOW.

Reaction to versions of Snow White.

I grew up with the Brother's Grimm version of Snow White, so it was not a big deal for me to read variations. No childhood fantasy was shaken up.

I was given the Grimm's book of Fairy Tales for Christmas when I was nine and I read it all. the. time. My best friend Reni and I would read it at sleepovers and think about how grotesque the stories were, especially Cinderella. Actually, the thing I remember most about Snow White was that she was only seven. She must have grown up with the dwarves or been with her coffin for years, because she definitely was not old enough to get hitched when her mama threw her out.

I love fairy tales, mostly because they always change. That is the best part about them.

Also, I wished this had been discussed more in class.

I've been fairly bad about responding to readings on this blog, but not really. I just never label my responses to what I've been reading. So I should probably label this one.

Mama Arms Take 2.

The other day I was with my friend Calvin and he called someone "Relief Society Arms" because they had Mama arms like in my post before.

Reading: Snow White.

Tuesday

Mama Arms.


[I am the tan one on the right. My sister is the pale one on the left.]
When I was in high school, I had a teacher named Mrs. Keating. She was a math teacher. I hated math. She was the hardest teacher in the school. The students that didn't like her always talked about her arms. She was skinny, but her arms shook when she wrote on the board. We'd sit there, transfixed, as Mrs. Keating's arms wrote equations on the board. And for the first seven months of school, that is how I thought of her. Wiggly Arms... Mom Arms as some people called them. 

The last two months of school I came down with Mono. The kissing disease struck me so badly that I could not go to school for over a month. The school district gave me a home teacher, and I did my work at home. Most of my teachers ignored the home teacher's requests to help me with my schooling. Especially my "cool" teachers. Mrs. Keating did not. She sent home all my homework, and called periodically to check on me. She was fabulously nice, and she probably does not even remember it. I learned that there was a lot more to my teacher than red hair and wiggly arms. She actually cared about her students. Sadly, the kids in my class probably never realized this. Some of them still talk about the way her arms shook.

I thought this was a once in a lifetime thing. I did not know that Mom Arms were a common syndrome. I was wrong. I hear them referred to on TV shows, in movies, in books, and in everyday conversations. In fact, as I just sat coloring a card for my friend's birthday, I felt a little wiggle to my side. I looked over. And there they were: Mama Arms. Mama Arms on ME.

Monday

Author Bio


            I was born in a tall, white hospital in downtown Mobile, Alabama. My twenty-six year old mother was rushed to the hospital by my twenty-six year old father in the same fashion many first-time mothers are. Only my mother was not a first-time mother; she already had two rambunctious boys, both under the age of four. As she lay there under fluorescent lighting, the nurse informed her that the doctor was missing in action. He had gone to the wrong hospital. They reassured her that he would be back within the hour. She did not doubt them, and the doctor came quick… but I came quicker. So I was born. I was born without a doctor. I was born to my mother with my father on one side and the nurse on the other.

            At the age of thirteen, my parents finally consented to buy me contacts. I had just started junior high and I was thrilled. I was sure contacts would bring me all kinds of luxuries: more room for eye makeup, a first kiss, maybe even a new reputation. I walked into the store to pick up my contacts the day they arrived. My parents let me go in by myself. I wore black pedal pushers and a blue sweater and I knew that my life was going to change.

            When I started wearing contacts, I started wearing blue eye shadow. I started wearing pink eye shadow. I started wearing purple eye shadow. I even started wearing glitter on my eyelids. I did not listen to my mother when she warned me that too much glitter was too much glitter. I did not listen to her when she told me that a fleck of glitter could slide off my eyelid, cutting my cornea, turning me permanently blind. I did not care. I was a new person. I was a slave to fashion.

            When I sixteen, I went to a party with a boy I had toyed with since the age of fifteen. When I turned my back, a girl with nappy blonde hair tried to seduce him. She asked him to dance; she tilted back her head and laughed at his lame jokes. Before I knew it, the fear that she would replace my spot on his lap overwhelmed me so much that I quit talking. I didn’t talk to him for the rest of the night until our long drive home. A few weeks later, I still held a grudge about the girl with blonde hair. For his eighteenth birthday, we went to see a movie and I punished him. He bought me a blue Icee and I let it melt in the armrest between us. He told me I should eat it before it turned into liquid. I shoved my hands in my pockets and turned my head to the screen.

            Finally, I turned old enough to go to college. I told my parents I could not and would not go anywhere in Utah. I went to the University of Missouri instead. I lied to my parents and told them that there were only co-ed dorms so that I could live with men. I went to classes bright and early, left my dorm at eleven thirty at night, and showered at three in the morning. I started wearing my glasses again because I wanted to look different than the other freshmen. I wanted to be studious, but I wanted to be wild. I wanted to be everything. I wanted to live my life at my own schedule.

            I did not stay in Missouri. By my twentieth birthday, I moved myself into a Salt Lake City apartment where I had no friends or family. I started working at a shoe boutique and I traded my ripped skinny jeans and colorful wristbands in for five-inch stilettos and dresses. I tamed my wild hair and laughed when I was supposed to. I made friends and stayed out until two standing ankle deep in snow. I took art classes and drew with charcoal until four in the morning. I ate cereal for dinner and argued with my roommate. I parked on the street and wrecked my car. The next week I hit a motorcycle whose headlights were not on. I gave him forty bucks and never heard from him again. Then I moved to Provo and started school at Brigham Young University.

            I turned twenty-two the twelfth of September and my mother still laughs that I have not changed since the first day of my life. I like what I like and I make my own decisions and I show up when I want to and do what I want when I want to. Sometimes I love to be a hermit, but other times there is not stopping me. I’m passionate about faith, about photography, about history, about writing, about literature, about laughing, about music, and about finding the inner spark within everything. I love people and I love stories—all kinds of stories because each one makes me understand something new each and every time. I like to paint my fingernails and I like to feel free and quote song lyrics.

            Call me an idealist. Call me a dreamer. Call me funny. Call me a romantic. Call me hazy eyed. I’ll call myself Elisabeth… or Lissa.

Tuesday

I Never by Rilo Kiley

Surveys like these always always always pop up.
And more often than not, a question or two changes between passings.
Facebook, Email, Blogs... all the same. Observe:

1. Put your iTunes on shuffle
2. For each question, press the next button to get your answer.
3. You must write that song title down, no matter how silly it sounds!
4. Tag TEN friends who might enjoy doing the same, as well as the person who went this to you.

If someone says, "is this okay?" you say...
If I Am by Nine Days

What would best describe your personality?
American Pie by Don McLean

What do you like in a guy or girl?
Standard Lines by Dashboard

How do you feel today?
A Plain Morning by Dashboard

What's your life's purpose?
Holding Nothing Back by Copeland

What is your motto?
You'll Think of Me by Keith Urban

What do your friends think of you?
Everytime I Look For you by Blink

What do you think about very often?
Us by Regina Spektor

What is 2 + 2?
We Will Become Silhouettes by The Postal Service

What do you think of your best friend?
Make It Up by Ben Kweller

What do you think of the person you like?
Life is a Highway by Rascal Flatts

What is your life story?
Black Bird by the Beatles

What is your soulmate thinking?
Way Out by Yeah Yeah Yeahs

What do you want to be when you grow up?
Living in Twilight by the Weepies

What do you think when see the person you like?
I Am Understood? Relient K

What do your parents think of you?
Exhale (Shoop Shoop) by Whitney Houston

What will you dance to at your wedding?
The Damage In Your Heart by Weezer 

What will they play at your wedding?
Oh! Darling by the Beatles

What is your hobby/interest?
Dreams by The Cranberries

What is your destiny?
If You C Jordan by Something Corporate

What is your biggest secret?
Unwritten by Natasha Bedingfield

What do you think of your friends?
Pitseleh by Elliott Smith

What does your best friend think of you?
Faces by Under the Influence of Giants

What does your ex think of you?
Flat On the Floor by Carrie Underwood

What is the worst thing that could happen?
You Can't Break A Broken Heart by Kate Voegele

How will you die?
Sticky Teenage Twin by Snow Patrol

What do you regret?
Santa Baby by Eartha Kitt

What makes you laugh?
Change Your Mind by the Killers

What makes you cry?
Energy by Apples in Stereo

Will you get married?
What A Beautiful Day by Chris Cagle

What scares you the most?
Don't Come Around Again by Rooney

Does anyone have a crush on you?
My Favorite Color by Backseat Goodbye

If you could go back in time, what would you change?
Meant to Live by Switchfoot (Does that mean I wouldn't have seen them in concert back in high school?)

What hurts right now?
Everything's Just Wonderful by Lily Allen

What will you post this as?
I Never by Rilo Kiley

This one's a variation of a radio game. The "What should I do with my life?", "What is he thinking of? game. My friends play it, and there's an episode of One Tree Hill where the girls play it too. That means many people have played it. So play on, playa.

Monday

Break Ups

Disclaimer: I am not a psycho ex.

In high school and college (and probably after), one of the most discussed topics is simple: relationships. Breaking up.

It's the same every time. No matter who I break up with, no matter why I break up with them, and no matter what the relationship constituted of (semi-serious, super-almost-marriage-serious, or flat out long and confusing... anything but a few week long fling), I do the same things. Or at least some of the same things. My sophomore year I started the process of throwing out clothes. Clothes I wore when we had our first kiss in, our first fight, our break up... sometimes just clothes they really like. My senior year of high school, I burned pictures and letters and emails. I burned them into flames. Still true to my latest breakup, I tear up pictures, I tear up letters, I write new letters I never intend to send, I throw out things they gave me, and if I'm really mad I break CDs they gave me or dump perfume...even squeeze out lotion. Sometimes I delete their phone numbers, their emails, and most of their pictures from my laptop.

Alright so now that I sound crazy...

It's a mourning process. I do it every time. But let me water it down: I have a lot of clothes, so throwing out (or pushing them into the back of my closet) really is not a big deal. The burning? I had backups of the emails, and doubles of some pictures. Tearing up of pictures? Most likely, they're stored to a CD somewhere or stuck in a collage on my wall. Deletion of phone number? No big. If you want it later, all you have to do is ask. You can even ask a mutual friend. They'll never need to know. And more than anything? It's fun.

Let's face it: Women love Carrie Underwood-esque "Before He Cheats" songs. We all want to key the car when we get cheated on, we want to egg their house, and we want to make out with their best friend. It's called revenge. And women love to do it, not only for the rush, but for the rush of it later. Then we talk smack on them. A lot of my ex's are known not by their names, but by nicknames. Names like "My dead-beat boyfriend," My "cheating but I still want to marry you boyfriend," My "funny and so hot-hot-hot boyfriend," The one with "the cool vibe". The "awkward one", The "What Was I thinking" one. They're all there. And I loved them. All of them... but some more than others.

Point? None of this "mourning process" really matters. 
In the end, I end up restoring the pictures on my laptop, I stop talking smack on them, I no longer want to egg their house (though I may date one of their friends), I put their phone number back on my phone, I put their email (that I had memorized all along) back in my address book, I say hi to them on campus, sometimes I even date them again. In the end, the mourning process doesn't matter. But we all have personal mourning processes. I like to tear things, and I like to cry. I like to do it and I know I do. It makes me free.

Sometimes I even prolong the system, simply because I don't want to date. I want to grieve. And the funniest part of this? I've never been the dumpee. Ever. I've always been the dumper (though many a time I've been the dumper after issues of cheating and lying). But what's a girl to do? I don't want to be calm when I break up. I want to be free. I want to tear that part of my heart out, and put it somewhere else. So I do. In art and tearing things up and music and school. That's how I do it each and every time since I was 15 years old... Only now I don't always listen to Toby Keith and Jessica Andrews to get the pain out of my system.

And I'm not the only one like this. Just ask your college aged friends, family members, or daughters. They'll be the same way, too. And that's why it's folklore. I'll never know why someone thought of burning pictures after a break up, but sometimes it feels good to see things go up in flames.


In the words of Rilo Kiley, "OOh! Ahh! Feels good to be FREE!"

 

Friday

Now I've Got My Tailypo

The story of Tailypo goes something like this: An old man is starving. He goes hunting with his beloved dogs. They don’t find anything. On their retreat home, they come across an odd looking animal with a long, furry tail. He tries to kill the animal, but misses the middle of its body. Instead, he severs the animal’s tail from the rest of his body. Overjoyed by the prospect of having a meal, the man runs home to stew the tail. He eats it, and stuffed to the brim, begins to fall asleep.

            But sleep doesn’t hold him for long. Outside of his house, he hears barking and whining from his dogs. He thinks he hears a voice say “Tailypo, Tailypo, all I want is my Tailypo!” The old man does not like this voice. He yells at his dogs to be quiet. They don’t obey. He hears scratching at the door. All the sudden everything is quiet. Baffled, the man goes to check on his bloodhounds. They are gone. The man goes back inside, stunned. His dogs have never run off before, and he does not know what to make of it.

Should he look for them? It’s dark outside, and the man does not want to get lost. As he debates what to do, he hears scratching from within his home. What could be scratching? He looks across the room and sees an odd looking animal, the same odd looking animal from before. The animal looks at him. “Tailypo, Tailypo, I’ve come to get my tailypo!” The old man is terrified. A battle ensues. In the morning, all that’s left of the old man’s house is the chimney. But when you go out to the old man’s property late at night, you can still hear a voice saying, “Tailypo, Tailypo, now I’ve got my Tailypo!”

Thursday

Call for Family Photographs.



The last time I remember getting professional photographs taken of my family, I was 9. They were horrible. They were always horrible. My father never smiles in photographs, so my Mama decided to take a few years off of the professional photograph part of life.

A few years after that, I discovered photography and the rest kinda goes like this...



















My family is CUTE.

Monday

Months of Tradition

Okay so I didn't print off well scattered pictures of the year. They're mostly from the summer. But that's only because I switched computers back in June and I saved some pictures from my old computer, but not a lot. So most of my winter months are stored on CDs, not this cute MacBook.

Today in class we had to map out things we celebrated annually, every month. It wasn't to turn in, but I thought (and heard others around me decide) it would fit in well with the Almanac. Plus it looks cooler with pictures. So Here. I. Go.

January: 8th: My childhood best friends birthday. In high school, we always went to Japanese steak houses. By the time we were juniors, we lived the high life and went alone. We were usually grouped with a table of approaching-30 years old men. One year one of them was also celebrating a birthday, and when we asked how old he was he said "Old enough for dad to be mad". Ew.
    Other celebrations/every year occurrences include Martin Luther King day, the start of a new semester, and lots of real and paper snow flakes.

February: 14th: Valentine's Day. The day everyone hates to love or loves to hate, depending on your relationship status. My most memorable Valentine's Day was my freshman year of college. My grandmother sent me a card saying "It's okay to be alone on Valentine's Day". Little did she know I was vaguely involved with not one, but two boys whose names started with "M's". Still, I didn't have a boyfriend and the card made me mad. It's also now infamous in my family history.
     Other days: My little brother David's birthday (2001). My cousin Caralyn's death day (2005). I usually go home during the weekend of David's birthday and spend a few days with my family, which I love.

March: 5th: I always remember March 5th because in 7th grade it was the day I got my ears double pierced. A few weeks later in general conference, President Hinckley said that double pierced ears were not the way to go. I took them out, but for some reason the holes in my ears are still there and waiting to be stuck through with a diamond or a pearl.
    Other days: SPRING

April: Finals. School gets OUT.

May: 5th: The past few years either I or my friends have Cinco de Mayo parties. We chalk the walkway up, throw up streamers, have all kinds of food, and play Mexican music. They have always been way fun, and they have always led to some kind of drama for me or one of the other girls involved.
    Other: I usually go on a trip with some of my friends in May. It's not always the same group, but it's usually in the beginning of the summer... this past year, however, it was at the end. I also usually have a boyfriend. It's also the month of my cousin Katy's birthday.

June: Spring term of school ends. the first 2 years of college I started EFY in June, but this past year I went home instead. It is my niece Sophie's birthday, but so far she is only 1.

July: The LAKE with the fam. This adorable child in the picture below taken at the lake this past summer is my one and only adorable niece, Sophia Joy. She looks just like my brother and exactly like my sister in law and I LOVE her. Yesterday I became the first person she ever spoke to on the phone (I think). 
    Other: the 4th!!... I have always liked to blow things up. 



August: I usually go home for a few weeks in August. (Home is KC, Missouri). It's the most relaxing thing in the world. I spend a lot of time down in Arkansas with my brother and his wife and child, but I also hang out a lot at home with my old friends and my adorable family. This past year we went to World of Fun, which is so fun and one of my favorite hang outs (like all kids) when I lived in fun. Roller coasters are always good for a scream. This picture is of Anna and David on the ferris wheel in August 2008.
    Other: August starts out the months of birthdays in my family. My mom's is the 19th (1960) and my brother Josh's is the 10th (1984). My Aunt Sandy and Uncle B. also have birthdays in this month.

September: School starts in September and my sister and I always turn a year older. Her birthday is the 5th (1990) and mine is the 12th (1986). When we were growing up, I loathed her for her early birthday. I did not like to share it. When I was in high school, one of my best friends, Katie LeVota, had a birthday on the 9th so we usually celebrated our birthdays together. Now that I'm in college, my good friend Jayne Herrscher has a birthday on the 10th and so now we celebrate together.



October: Dad's birthday is the 8th (1950), my sister-in-law Joy's is on the 7th (1982). It's also the turn of fall and Halloween. We LOVE Halloween! We each got to carve our own pumpkins growing up and I think we must have usually ate pizza because every Halloween that I've been outta the house I crave pizza more than anybody else.

November: Thanksgiving! My brothers Nathan and Noah also have birthdays. Noah's is the 1st (1998). My  mom was SO glad he was not born on Halloween, but now that he just turned 10 I think he often uses it as a birthday theme. Nathan's is the 24th (1982) and is sometimes on Thanksgiving and sometimes not. Nathan and Noah are a lot alike, only 16 years apart. In Kansas City, the plaza has a light ceremony for Christmas every Thanksgiving.


December: No birthdays... but there is CHRISTMAS. And finals and the end of school, thank heavens. (I love to learn but November and December...and even October are often killer killer months... especially this year. Holy Heck.) The picture below is of a little boy I used to nanny and his Christmas tree. He loved the ornaments!

Saturday

Familia Stories.

Family Stories. We all have them.

We talked about stories for a long time on Friday (yesterday).

There's a lot of them. More than I could ever count BUT I did want to record a few.

When I was five or six, my family went to six flags over Georgia and for the first time ever, my father bought all of us souvenirs. My present was a pink and white plastic coin purse/wallet with Tweety Bird on the front and I adored it. I loved it more tha anything I had ever been given. It was my favorite thing, and I clung to it the entire day. After we left the amusement park, we went to eat at Steak and Shake and I became so focused on my deliciously greasy food that I forgot about my new wallet. I ate and ate and then got in the car to leave. We pulled out of the parking lot and got about twenty or thirty or forty minutes into rush hour Atlanta traffic. I looked down at my seat and had an epiphany: I did not have my new Tweety-embossed wallet. I started crying because I had to have it. I cried and cried and my mother and grandma told me to stop. My brothers covered their ears. My two year old sister looked confused. I kept crying. My dad found an exit and turned the car around. He drove back through rush hour traffic in downtown Atlanta to Steak and Shake to get me my wallet. My grandma, who spoiled me worse than anyone else, told him that he was ruining me. But he went back into the restaurant, found my little coin purse, and brought it back to the car. I still have in a desk at home. The downside? My parents tell this story to any of my boyfriends they have ever met.

When my dad was younger, he was a rebel. Or maybe more of a free spirit. He liked to grow his hair out and camp in Arkansas mountains for as long as his mother would (or wouldn't) allow him. He was a little bit of a hippie, sans the drug exposure, and lived his life how he wanted to (I think he is where I got it from). Anyways, one day while hanging out with some of his friends, they decided to streak across a prominent bridge covering a big lake near their houses. For some reason or another, this story was often told when we were growing up (which is probably why all of us children have indulged in some form of exhibitionism such as skinny dipping or running outside in our underwear... or naked). But what happened later erased exactly what happened in Pop's story. One time my grandma came to visit, we all sat in the van driving to the Independence Visitor's Center. My brothers were goofing off, making fun of dad when he was younger, and our grandma kinda joked along, but she was very uptight when it came to Dad so I don't know how much she was actually laughing. Then one of my brothers (I can't remember which one) dropped the big one: He said "Like when Dad went streaking on such-and-such bridge". The van was silent for a minute and then Grandma said, "You did WHAT?!!!"

My brother Josh has a temper. He's always had it. My family was never the biggest fan of board games, but now they are all but outlawed in our family. One Sunday or Monday night when I was in elementary school, my family sat playing a game of Life or Monopoly and Josh was losing. Josh kept losing. He kept losing and we kept making fun of him. Eventually he got so fed up he overturned the board, scattered the game across the room, yelled at us and ran to his bedroom. He got in trouble (He couldn't have been more than 11 or 12) and now board games are never played at our house, and now I never want to play them when my friends or roommates suggest we do.

My two older brothers and I were all born within 4 years of each other, and my sister was born 4 years after me. 8 years after her, my brother Noah was born, quickly followed by David two years later. David is atrociously spoiled but incredibly adorable. As the baby, he got more attention that anyone ever could imagine. As a baby, he crawled every after my 18 year old brother Nathan and basked in happiness whenever Nathan held him. He wasn't even one when Nathan left for his mission, but he still adores Nathan, as all children do. That's not the point of the story though. When David was about 16 months old, our family had some miscommunication about who was watching him. He couldn't have been left alone for more than five or ten minutes and he was quickly found. He was found sitting on the table halfway through a box of Krispy Kreme doughnuts, covered in glaze and chocolate and sprinkles. He was the happiest baby in the world, and was furious when we took the doughnuts away... And now that he's 7, he still has a massive sweet tooth, especially for Krispy Kreme doughnuts.

My younger brother is the most adorable, sweet child I have ever met. I was 12 when he was born, and to a girl who had just grown out of the age children play with dolls, I found myself with a real live baby doll. I took him with me everywhere. I wanted to hold him all the time. I did not like to share him, except when he was screaming. My sister was 8 at the time, and he cried a lot more when she held him than when I did. One night-- Christmas Eve, when Noah was almost 2 months old, Anna grabbed him when he was serenely sitting. I wanted him, so I snatched him from her. We were standing in the hallway and I fight ensued between us. During the fight, one or the other scratched his newborn forehead and gave him a bloody scab between his eyebrows. We weren't allowed to hold him the rest of the night, and I bawled because I thought we had permanently scarred him (we didn't). Now freshly 10 years old, Noah still loves to hear the story about how he got his first battle scars.

At the end of this past summer, I ended a relationship. It was at least the 3rd time I'd ended it, even though we'd never been exclusive with each other. His name was David. And it was just an interesting, weird relationship that dragged on off and on for over a year, when it should have played out in 1 or 2 months or even weeks. Anyway, he'd met my family members that had come down to visit when we were seeing each other, so about 6 months before our relationship ended he'd become Facebook "friends" with my little sister, Anna. Anyway, when I ended our quasi-relationship for the final time, I de-friended him on facebook (I figured I'd had 2 or 3 guys to it to me in my past... I could do it to him too). Later I told my mom what I had done and she told my sister who joyously texted me saying she was proud of me because he was not cool enough for me and then she vindictively de-friended him as well. Fast forward a month later: I had talked to David a few more times in random run-ins and I thought we could be friends again, so I re-added him to facebook. Later that night, however, I ran into him and wound up saying to him that we were done done done and used a few choice words in the process. I got on facebook the next day to delete pictures I had up of the two of us and in the process saw that he had BLOCKED me from facebook. I laughed really hard about it at first, and then it really bugged me. I soon told my family about it and they made so much fun of me! Even though they were so so glad I ended the relationship once and for all (they didn't like him because he was usually a jerk to me), they still make fun of me for getting myself blocked from someone's facebook... I don't think they'll ever let me live it down in the world of cyber friendships.

Also a note about BYU traditions: We heard the victory bell ringing while walking home today.

Thursday

The Weepies.

I've been bad at keepin up this week.

BUT tonight I bought a CD I've been meaning to buy for months and months and when I bought it, I realized that they're music is categorized as "Folk" which I had never thought of before.

Even better, the two musicians that make up are married and they have a son named Theo (information found courtesy of Wikipedia). I think this makes their songs, already labeled as Foklore, that much more Folklorish. Their children will be able to hear the songs sung by their parents and they'll be passed down generations. Furthermore, they sing about songs concerning historical stories. I love their music, and I really do believe it's because of the folksy vibe that emanates from it. Here's a little taste of a lyric:

"I thought of you and where you've gone
As the world spins madly on
And everything that I said I'd do
That I'd make the world brand new
And take the time for you
i just got lost, and stepped right through the dark
And the world spins madly on.
I let the day go by
And I always so goodbye
And I watched the stars from my windowsill.
The whole world is moving and I'm standing still." -World Spins Madly On. 2005.

LOVE it.

Monday

Peaches and GRAIN.

Today we wrapped up our presentations and I've gotta admit... my group was definitely jinxed. Grain is not as fun as potatoes or pineapple or peaches, but especially peaches. Why? Because grain is not a fun part of pop culture, it's just a necessary staple of my diet (pretty much all I eat is grain because I LOVE it, but let's face it... Mario never had to save a Princess Grain.)

Speaking of, Mario Brothers is one big barrel of folklore. I grew up on Mario Brothers because my brothers LOVED it. Sometimes I got to play the Nintendo Games, but mostly I had to watch, and pretend to be Princess Peach (It was like this with everything: I was always April from TMNT or a girl ghost or Sigourney Weaver or the nerdy secretary from Ghostbusters or the one woman in Star Wars when we played them. But let me tell you, I played those roles vicariously). Princess Peach was vulnerable, which I did not like. This past weekend, my friend dressed as Luigi one night and as Mario the next. Children of the 80s grew up on Mario and they just can't help but love them... even though their action-adventure big screen debut tanked.

So why is food so important? Well, as anyone who has ever seen "Over the Hedge" know, humans live to eat. It's as simple as that. Or is it? No. Peaches are everywhere: Georgia Peaches, the peaches team in the Tom Hanks movie where he coaches an all woman's softball league during the war, the term "You're a peach". It's all over the place. I love it. But it's more of a fruit thing. I don't like slogans that talk about chocolate, because I get tired of chocolate (unless it's with peanut butter, which is my favorite food). But that is just how it goes. Fruit is supposed to be refreshing, to be cool, to be a little exotic even if it's cultivated in the United States. Sometimes it is in season and sometimes it is not. It's typically not something that is eaten every day (unless it is an apple or an orange). And that is why we like it.

Saturday

Halloween




Halloween reminds me of prom because the WORST thing that can happen is someone else wearing your outfit... unless you plan it out (which is where the prom analogy stops). Sometimes Halloween is more fun when you dress the same as other people. Like in the picture above, my cute roommate Kendra and I were fairies with the exact same outfit, just different colors. And different wings. It was fun. Halloween is the only time of year (except for random costume parties) that you can dress however you want, and in whatever way you can. You can bust out of your shell, you can become someone else... even if it's just by being a fairy or the classic Morton Salt Girl (and before I changed into my MSG costume I saw someone else with one like it. But mine was better so I win!)

Other kinds of folklore besides costumes...

Smashing pumpkins (someone smashed ours right outside the door)
Late night scary movies (which I didn't participate in this year for the first time I can remember)
Dancing

One aspect of Halloween folklore I do NOT like is all of the Mormon girls who try to sluttify themselves, using costumes and Mean Girls quotes to back up their reasoning. Girls, please.

Wednesday

Class Sched.

I'm missing class today and did on Monday cause I do not feel good at ALL. So I'm making a doctors appointment and getting a blood test cause I have some insane problems with blood sugar. I just hope I don't have mono again because if I did, it would spring from a water fountain and no kind of lip action fun... and that is not a good story.

Tuesday

Witches




More on Halloween Traditions:
This past weekend I went to a witches party. I'd never heard of anything like it before, but pretty much 6 or 7 of us women dressed like witches had dinner, and then we went to a "Village" in between Salt Lake and Provo. And it was so fun. There were women dressed like witches everywhere, cackling, dancing, shopping. Most of the witches were dressed in black: one of my friends even painted her face green; but others were dressed as Glenda the Good Witch. And the witches were all ages from 2 to 92. It was funny. I'd never seen anything like it before. 

I know that since we're talking about food in class I should probably write about food. But fall is rich with culture (and I wrote about pumpkins in my last post). I've researched American witches on more than one occasion, particularly concerning the Salem Witch Trials. They are completely fascinating, but creepy. And though I LOVE Halloween and dressing up like a witch, I can't help but sometimes feel it's a little disrespectful to the women (and few men) who were killed because someone called them a witch. They were not witches. They were normal people who stumbled across accusations they could not overcome.

Nonetheless, the witch hunts in America don't even hold a candle to the witch hunts that happened in Europe. The number of women murdered on this count is completely atrocious, but it's very rarely talked about. But what's talked about even less is that Martin Luther instigated the Witch Hunts. And if he didn't downright start them, he made them explode. Witches in history have a horrible tale to tell, but no one ever thinks of them as real. But perhaps they were. Perhaps some of them really were witches. Did they deserve to die? Probably not. Witches are fascinating because they deal with something out of our reach. We cannot understand them from our day to day lives, and that is why they have such a center to modern day Halloween, fairy tales, and Disney movies.

And I'm sorry, but modern day witches are just creepy.


Sunday

Pumpkins.





Halloween is around the corner.
And my FAVORITE tradition (besides costumes) is family carving time.
My mom and brother came in this weekend and it. was. rad.

Wednesday

Proposal

 

Now I’ve Got My Tailypo: A Tale of a Southern Tail

Aims and Purpose

My research of the story Tailypo will be fun.

These are the questions that will be addressed in my research:

  • Where did the story of Tailypo come from?
  • Where did most of my family members and friends first learn about Tailypo?
  • Why is Tailypo so eerily fascinaiting?
  • Are there major differences with the stories centering a black man and the stories centering around a white man?
  • Is the man in Tailypo always alone with a few dogs?

 

Community Involvement and Benefits

 

            My research will mainly take place with my family and friends I have that are from the South or that have lived in the South at one time. They will share with me the version of this story they grew up with, and how it resonated with them. Some people that will be interviewed are Anna Bogart, Katy Quinnelly, and Whitney Upton. I will share the information I have gathered in the form of a research report, to be turned in to Jill Rudy at the end of November.

            My research will benefit the participants because they will be able to see how others viewed this story, and whether or not it was interpreted in the same way. They will be able to access my research in the Brigham Young Harold B. Lee Library or if desired, I will print them off a copy of my research and mail it to them.

 

Background and Importance of Project

 

            I started researching Tailypo before I ever knew what research was. I may have heard the story before, but as I sat with my feet tucked under myself in Jinkle Eslava’s kindergarten classroom in Mobile, Alabama, I was fascinated. I loved the eerie feeling of the story, and I knew that it would give me goose bumps in the night. It scared me more than the story of Bloody Mary that my cousin had told me as we walked to our car from Mardi Gras parades, and it scared me more than the prospect of my older brother’s stealing my Little Mermaid Barbie. I was hooked, and I often sat with my mom asking her why the dogs ran away into the night when the Tailypo came and why the Tailypo got his tailypo back and why did the Tailypo call himself a tailypo. My mother did not know all the answers, which made the story even more rad. It was impenetrable and I loved it.

            Sadly, it seems that many American Folklorists have not picked up on this tale. There are numerous scholarly sources regarding the story, but they do not just focus on Tailypo. They focus on “Appalachian Folklore” as a whole. Appalachian Folklore is cool, but Tailypo is better. By researching numerous aspects of the Tailypo story, I will be able to capture the feeling I felt as a young child, reading Tailypo while sitting outside in the warm autumn breeze.

            This story is important to American folklore because it is important to thousands of young children living under the middle of the country. It is important because it is told with a deep southern accent, and it’s important because it is rad. Everyone in the United States should feel the wonder of being a child in the South, and if they cannot do it by laying in the sun, eating honeysuckle that grows on chain link fences or seeing drops of humidity in the sky, then they can do it by reading Tailypo. The main characters of Tailypo show a lot of gumption—and the South is all about gumption.

 

Main Proposal Body and Methods or Procedures

 

  • Read differing accounts of Tailypo – Week of October 26th
  • Read scholarly articles containing information about Tailypo or southern folklore – Week of October 26th
  • Compare the stories to the one I grew up with—Week of October 26th
  • Interview sources—Week of October 26th and November 2nd
  • Answer research questions – Week of November 2nd
  • Construct first draft of paper—Week of November 2nd
  • Write cover sheet, make sure each interview is cited properly – Week of November 9th
  • Proofread and perfect final draft—Week of November 9th

 

I will read books about Southern folklore for my project, and I will also draw from my own personal experiences growing up in Alabama. I will contact most of my research participants over the phone or through email since those participating in the research do not live near to me. I will record these conversations if they are over the phone and save them if they are conducted through the internet. Following the collection, I will then write down what was said on a collecting sheet. I will either have them mail me a consent form or ask if I can have permission to write their signature (which is legal).

      When interviewing my research participants, I will ask them when they first learned of Tailypo, how old they were when they first heard it, and what kind of emotions it evoked to them. I will also ask why this story is applicable to southern culture, and why it matters. I want to know why it grabbed their attention, so that I can grab my own reader’s attention. 

      Preparing the oral presentation will be easy. I will tell the story to the class, and then present aspects of what I learned in my research. It will be way fun to present this story because, so far, none of my friends have ever heard it before. It is a great story and everyone will love it. While drafting my paper, I will rely on my notes, and then sit down and write the paper in one sitting. A few days later I will write it again, and maybe again after that, depending on how well I feel the paper flows. I will then finalize my draft, revising the most recent version of my draft.

 

Anticipated Academic Outcome

 

            In all honesty, I probably won’t do anything more with this research than donate a copy to the archives and keep one for myself. It will be interesting to have once I have my own children, and it will be fun for them to have once they are old enough to care about folk tales. I don’t plan on submitting it to a conference, because I have never done anything of the sort and would not know how to do so. I will either keep my preliminary self for my own personal library, or donate them with my final project to the archives.

 

Qualifications

 

            I am qualified to do this research because I grew up with this story and have passed it on to some of my roommates and some of my friends. I also have family members and old friends I can pull information from about this story, meaning that my research will be well rounded and interesting. It will also be different than anything anyone else is researching in our class.

 

Risk

 

            I do not know anyone who would be vulnerable to this story, and I do not believe researching this content will put anyone at emotional risk.

 

Fit with Brigham Young University Aims

 

            This project will uplift any Southerner’s spirit, will be intellectually enlarging to Yankees and westerners, and will lead to reflection whenever such a Southern story is told, leading to lifelong learning.

 

Annotated Scholarly Sources

 

            Alexandra T. Fabius, Alex, wrote her American Folklore project on the study of American pets. Alex claims that animals act as humans. Their owners assign them human traits and take a lot of pride and joy in their accomplishments. Americans have come to love this about their dogs, and this is the exact reason why celebrity dogs like Lassie and Benji are important. This is important to my story because there is only one man in the story—the others are animals.

Citation: FA 1 2268: Fabius, T. Alexandra, “Folklore Collection and Study on Smart Pets:

America’s Obsession with Lassie,” 2000

 

            In her project “The World of Folklore,” Megan Boden discusses various aspects of Folklore throughout the world. Though she also addresses myths, she heavily focuses on multiple types of urban legends. Reading these legends, the audience can feel a new appreciation for the sheer vast amount of territory urban legends cover. For many faithful story lovers, legends give us a sense of identity, and it is fun to remember the stories you knew as a child as you read them from a published text as an adult. This applies to my story because though for years I completely forgot about Tailypo, I remembered it in vivid detail as soon as it came back into the forefront of my memory. These legends, told so often, reflect certain cultures and can bring back memories for those who read them.

Citation: FA 1 2685: Boden, Megan, “The World of Folklore,” 2000

 

            In Judy Teaford’s article, she discusses the importance of Tailypo’s appearance in picture books. Though it had been early passed down, she makes the claim that when Tailypo was put into a picture book it became more widespread, and that the picture booked helped with spread new versions of the tale rather than extinguish them.

Citation: Teaford, July. “The Unexamined Shadow? Not in Appalachian Picture Books!”

 

            The Mardi Gras, Gumbo and Zydeco article give a window into Louisiana and Southern culture. It tells what kinds of values are attributed to the south, which helps with the understanding of Taliypo. This is essential to my research project. I want to be able to create a feeling around Tailypo – the feeling most Southern child feels when they first hear this eerie tale.

Citation: Mardi Gras, Gumbo, and Zydeco: Readings in Louisiana Culture. Edited by Marcia

Gaudet and James C. McDonald. (Jackson: University Press of 

Monday

Hot Peppers

The book talked about hot peppers in a way a little different than I've seen displayed if my life, but class discussion leaned a little bit closer to what I have seen. Though I have seen and heard sexual references about hot peppers, I've never thought about them that way. As a symbol, hot peppers remind me of Chili's... not sex. BUT I will say that hot peppers remind me of showing off. I've only seen one or two adventure/attention-loving girls down a hot pepper, but I have seen so many boys do it I couldn't even start to guess a number. Everyone laughs at their red face and exploding eyes--- and the boys love it. It's a way to gain attention from the opposite sex, and makes a good story later on in life. That is what I think of when I think of hot peppers. 

Oh, and a whole lot of coughing after the pepper goes down.

Wednesday

Midterms

The tradition of midterms is the worst tradition.

But on the bright side: I DID get a B on a test I wrote in 30 minutes at 1:45 AM about a book I hated so much I started SparkNoting it halfway through [Je n'aime pas White Whales!]. Hallelujah!!


Monday

Tailypo

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"Tailypo, Tailypo, now I've got my Tailypo."

These lines struck complete fear in my heart as a child. The book cover pictured above, though ripped and tattered and stained, put me on complete edge. It scared me more than the Bloody Mary stories my cousin Brian told me at Mardi Gras. It scared me more than the rattling chains my dad heard late at night from work... his office stood over an old slave market. And it even scared me more than Urusula from the Little Mermaid. 

As a child in Alabama, this story was read to me in preschool and kindergarten, and we identified with it although we lived in the city. My mama once told me a story about my grandpa or great grandpa seeing a snake in an outhouse and embarrassingly enough, when I flushed the toilet between the tender ages of 5-8, I was terrified that a tailypo- or a tailypo's tail- would crawl right on out.

Heck, I am 22 and I still don't like to look at this book cover.

Friday

From My Antonia


"Fuchs told me that the sunflowers were introduced into the country by the Mormons; that at the time of the persecution, when they left Missouri and struck out into the wilderness to find a place where they could worship God in their own way, the members of the first exploring party, crossing the plains to Utah, scattered sunflower seeds as they went. The next summer, when the long trains of wagons came through with all the women and children, tey had the sunfower trail to follow." -My Antonia by Willa Cather, page 27.

Thursday

Karl G. Maeser and a Roman Commander

The testing center has a poster with Karl G. Maeser's quote that says he will not step out of his circle.

I took a test in the testing center today.

And in my test I wrote about the Roman commander (whose name is so long and so hard to spell like all the Romans) who drew a circle around a king named Antiochus (or something like that) and made him stay in the circle till he did what he said.

I wonder if Karl G. Maeser knew that story.
And I wonder if I'm writing his name right.